“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”
We’ve all been there. We’ve all had moments in our lives where we pretended to be someone else, whether that was to fit into a situation, to gain popularity or to because we thought we had to act in a certain way because of what other people would think of us. Being yourself can be very hard at times. Especially in the world we live in: A world full of judgement. We judge people at work for their skills (whether these are social skills or actual skills required to do the job), we judge people by what they wear, how they walk, talk or purely by their facial expression. We can be terribly critical and incredibly judgemental of others – and ourselves.
It is almost natural, like a reflex that happens by itself – or maybe driven by an untruthful dark side that tries to tells us how we should feel and react and often all it brings up is those doubts about ourselves. And with more doubt comes more negative thoughts. And more negative thoughts can quickly become reality. We all want to feel good. But how can we possibly feel good if we’re constantly drowning ourselves with the bad?
If I constantly keep telling myself that I am not good enough, not popular enough, not skinny enough, not strong enough, I probably start believing it sooner rather than later and it will be much harder to live with those ‘imperfections’, than if I tell myself: YES, I am not perfect, I have perfect imperfections like everyone else. But that doesn’t mean that I can’t love all the other, all the good things I actually like about myself.
I have recently asked myself a lot about whether I like myself, the person that I have become and the human nature that is me. Like many others, I don’t find it always easy to like or love myself, especially in times where I question whether I am doing the right thing, whether I am on the right track and whether I should be doing or serving something else instead. I am currently working on accepting and loving myself, believing in myself. Becoming aware and acknowledging my behaviour, my habits and my personality, and not being afraid to look at myself as who I am. And hopefully that will help me live a more joyful life – or in the words George Orwell: “Happiness can exist only in acceptance.”